A gun is personal, kinda like a good fitting pair of boots. Don't let your gun buying decision be made by others. Do your research, go to a range, rent the ones you are interested in, make sure it feels good in your hand and you can comfortably operate it safely.
Ladies if you don't let a man tell you what shoes to buy you shouldn't let him tell you what gun to buy. Find someone that will help you understand how to find the gun that fits you best.